Anonymous Adoption: Keeping Your Adoption Secret

How to Make a Confidential Adoption Plan

There are many reasons why a woman may want to remain anonymous, confidential, or secret when it comes to choosing adoption. Perhaps she doesn’t want the adoptive family to know who she is. Perhaps she wants to ensure her adoption professional will keep her information confidential. Perhaps she is trying to protect herself. Perhaps she is trying to protect her child. Perhaps she is trying to protect someone else or something else. Regardless of the reason for choosing a confidential, anonymous, or secret adoption, such options are available.

What Is a Confidential Adoption?

A confidential or anonymous adoption is an option, whether it’s remaining private to the adoptive family or other people in your life. A woman who is choosing adoption can keep much of her identifying information private, and any information she shares with her adoption professional will be completely confidential. While certain information will be required for an adoption professional to facilitate the process, the woman choosing confidential adoption should know that her information cannot be shared with anyone else without her permission.

In a confidential adoption with the adoptive family, the woman choosing adoption can remain confidential to the family who is adopting her child. She can choose a closed adoption, in which there is no contact with the child placed for adoption. She can keep her identity a secret to the adoptive family as well, if that’s what she feels is best in her situation.

Adoption professionals typically define secret, closed or confidential adoption as “any adoption in which the prospective birth mother chooses to keep her identity private and exchange no contact with the adoptive family during or after the adoption process.”

Get Your Questions Answered

Keeping adoption a secret is an option for any woman who is choosing adoption. However, a pregnancy is a tough thing to keep a secret. An adoption professional can point you in the direction of resources to help you deal with all the emotions that come along with keeping adoption a secret.

1-800-ADOPTION serves as an anonymous hotline. Please feel free to call the anonymous adoption agency 24/7 and ask any questions you may have regarding any adoption topic, including confidential, private, or secret adoptions. The adoption professional you speak with will respect your privacy and keep your adoption plan confidential while offering the services and support you need.

Remember to always consult with an adoption professional regarding your anonymous adoption options. While at first you may decide on a private adoption, you always have the option of opening it up while you are going through the process. Vice versa as well.