Finding a Loving Family to Adopt Your Baby
Making the decision to place your baby for adoption is one of the most challenging and emotional choices you can make. But you are not alone. Many birth mothers have walked this path before you, and their experiences can provide comfort, insight, and reassurance.
Once you know that adoption is the best choice for you and your baby, you can start your journey with a trusted adoption professional to find people looking to adopt your baby. With their guidance, you will create your adoption plan that answers important questions, such as:
- What type of family do I want raising my child?
- Do I want my child to have siblings?
- Do I want to stay in touch with the family and my child?
This page includes real quotes from birth mothers like you who have made this brave choice. Their words may help you find clarity and confidence as you move forward.
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What Makes Birth Mothers Choose Adoption?
Prospective birth mothers often choose adoption because they believe it offers their child the best possible future. Many feel unable to provide the life they want for their child but find peace knowing their child will grow up in a loving, secure environment.
Why Birth Mothers Choose to Find People Looking to Adopt
- “I knew I wasn’t going to be able to provide the future that I wanted for my daughter, and I knew another family could,” Cassidy, a birth mother, said. “I was looking for somebody that I could see my own parents in and could see myself in and my values.”
- “We knew the best thing for [our baby] was to find a home that he would have a full-time mom and dad at home and just a safe place to be,” Devlin, a birth mother, said. “Two, three months later, we found them.”
- “I was looking for somebody with good education, good job stability,” Sara, a birth mother, said. “I wanted, more than anything, for him to have a mom and a dad.”
- “I made the decision to do this because I felt in my heart that this was the right thing to do and knew I could make someone else have a wonderful gift from God, the same way that I was to my mom, a precious gift,” Christina, a birth mother, said.
- “I know that everything happens for a reason. I was placed in this situation for someone to be blessed with the miracle of a child,” Teka, a birth mother, said.
- “We wanted people that reflected who we are and who we aim to be,” Steven, a birth father, said.
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What Birth Mothers Look for in Adoptive Families
When searching for adoptive parents, birth mothers often have specific criteria that matter most to them. Whether it’s shared values, stability, education, or simply the ability to provide a loving and nurturing home, each birth mother’s journey is unique.
How Do Birth Mothers Choose Adoptive Families?
Every birth mother has her own vision of what the perfect family looks like. The decision is personal and influenced by her hopes for her child’s future.
- “They were talking about cooking as a family; they were all sharing a meal together, and I could just picture myself in that situation with them, and I knew it would be the best situation for my child,” Colleen, a birth mother, said. “I think their values were exactly aligned with mine. I love the fact that they already had a child so that my daughter could have an older sibling, which was really amazing.”
- When I was looking for families, I wanted a family that struggled with infertility,” Lindsey, a birth mother, said. “Another thing that was really important was to either not have any children, so they could dedicate their full time and attention to my baby, or — if they had children — having children that were really close in age, so there wasn’t a huge age gap.”
- “We were looking for a set of people that were family-oriented,” Steven said. “And we wanted people that reflected who we are and who we aim to be.”
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What Life Looks Like After Choosing Adoption
Adoption is a lifelong journey, and many birth mothers find peace through ongoing relationships with their child and the adoptive family. Their stories reveal how acceptance, love, and open communication can help heal the heart and provide lasting comfort.
- “When we got matched with them, it was like an instant connection,” Randi, a birth mother, said. “If I wanted to talk one week, they would talk to me. If I didn’t— if my emotions were just too strong, they were like, ‘OK, let’s talk next week.’”
- “Our relationship is very open,” Sara said. “They go above and beyond. They make sure that I have my pictures every day, even though it’s supposed to be once a month. I get video chats with them whenever I want, so I get to see Teddy all the time. I love our relationship. I couldn’t have asked for more.”
- “Adoption was the best thing for me, and I helped a family become a family, and that filled me with so much love and happiness,” Ericka said. “This is the hardest decision that I’ve ever had to make, but I don’t regret it. I know that she is happy and healthy and loved by so many people.”
- “He’s got a huge family, so much love, and it makes me so happy for him. And that’s what makes the situation better day by day,” Sara said.
How to Cope After Placing Your Baby for Adoption
The adoption process doesn’t end once you’ve chosen a family. It’s a lifelong journey that may include feelings of loss, hope, and healing. But with the right support, many birth mothers find peace in their decision.
- Consider counseling or support groups to help process your emotions.
- Maintain open communication with the adoptive family if that’s part of your adoption plan.
- Lean on trusted friends, family, or professionals who understand your experience.
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Ready to Begin Your Adoption Journey?
The adoption process can feel overwhelming, but you don’t have to face it alone. Adoption professionals are here to guide you every step of the way. We’re here to help you fully understand the adoption process and find a wonderful family ready to give your baby the best life possible.