Real Stories from Birth Parents on Why They Don’t Regret Adoption
Adoption is a heroic, brave decision. You’re putting your baby’s needs first by allowing them to live a life filled with endless possibilities. Although there are a wide range of emotions that come with adoption, remember that you’re not alone.
Many birth parents like you have gone through these emotions and know firsthand how you’re feeling. If you’re wondering, “Will I regret giving my baby up for adoption,” then we’ve compiled three stories from real birth parents on why they’ll never regret their adoption decision.
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3 Stories from Real Birth Parents on Why They Don’t Regret Giving Their Baby up for Adoption
1. Julia’s Adoption Story
Julia was a junior in college when she found out she was unexpectedly pregnant. Keeping her child’s best interest in mind, Julia knew adoption was the right choice.
“Don’t get me wrong, it’s really hard,” Julia said. “There were plenty of times when I felt like I was scared… but I felt like it was the right decision for me — and I still feel like that today.”
Julia started researching adoption agencies and came across an adoption professional who she felt an instant connection with. From there, Julia’s adoption professional helped her find the parents she wanted for her child. After having a conversation with the potential adoptive parents, Julia knew they were the perfect match.
“I knew it was the right decision when they told me they had always wanted a girl and had always planned to name her Julianna,” Julia remembers. “They told me the story about how they were at Thanksgiving and they were praying, and they got the call from me. It’s just a blessing all around.”
Julia doesn’t regret giving her baby up for adoption because she knows that it was the best thing she could have done for herself and her daughter. Once she found adoptive parents and began her open adoption relationship, Julia found healing to be much easier than she thought.
“I’m all about choices and doing what is right for you and I felt like, for me, I made the right choice,” Julia said. “I knew my life did not stop after adoption. It gave me a second chance to pursue my goals and dreams so that I can be a better version of myself and help people along the way. I wanted to show my daughter that I didn’t give up on myself and, more importantly, her.”
2. Sara’s Adoption Story
Sara, a mother of two grown boys, found out she was pregnant and instantly knew that parenting wasn’t an option. She had already raised two boys on her own and was scared to do it again. After researching her options, Sara decided to begin the adoption process.
“It was comforting to know that there were options out there and that adoption was available to me,” Sara said. “When you have the choice to give life and to make that life the best that it could be, I can’t imagine it any other way.”
Her adoption professional sent her potential adoptive family profiles, where she found the perfect profile that matched what she was looking for. After meeting them, Sara knew that this was the family she wanted to raise her baby.
“Each time that we would meet, each time that we would talk, we would realize that we were more like each other than we were different,” Sara recalls. “It was very confirming for me when I met them to have the (pre-placement) relationship for so long… They were the ones. There wasn’t a doubt about that.”
After some challenges with the birth father, Sara gave birth without the adoptive family at the hospital. She was able to spend time with her baby for 13 days until she was able to fully complete the adoption process. Those days she spent with her baby are ones she will always cherish. Although it was a difficult decision, Sara will never regret giving her baby up for adoption.
“It’s very rough in the beginning, but it does get better, and it takes you a while to realize that what you did was the best thing,” Sara said. “Regardless of the situation that put you there, there’s nothing to be ashamed of. Your ultimate decision was to place him in a family that would love him unconditionally, love him like he was their biological child.”
3. Janelle’s Adoption Story
Janelle and her husband had been trying to conceive for a year before they found out they were pregnant. At first, they were excited and thrilled. But then the excitement turned to worry and stress after discovering they were having twins. Knowing that they couldn’t financially provide for two babies, they decided to pursue adoption.
“It was super tough at first, but I knew it was what needed to happen, that we weren’t in the right place and it wasn’t the right environment to bring two babies into,” Janelle said. “[There was] no hesitation going into the adoption process… I already loved the babies even though they weren’t born, and I knew that’s what they needed.”
Eager to start searching for adoptive families, Janelle reached out to an adoption professional who sent her family profiles based on her preferences. As soon as Janelle found the adoptive family she had envisioned, she knew they were the ones.
Janelle’s boys were born three weeks later. She will always cherish the time she spent with her babies and the adoptive family in the hospital. Although it was a hard decision for Janelle, she doesn’t regret giving her babies up for adoption because she’s giving them a life she knew she couldn’t provide.
“You’re not giving your babies up; you’re just giving them a better life… it’s unselfish,” Janelle said. “That’s their lives you’re thinking about — it’s not just your life. You’re giving them the opportunity to live the best life that they can and the life you know that you can’t give them. I know it was the right choice.”
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