If You’re Having an Unwanted Baby, You Can Always Choose Adoption

If You Don’t Want to Raise Your Child After You Give Birth, You Can Choose Adoption

You’ve just found out you are unexpectedly pregnant but can’t get an abortion. You may feel worried about having an unwanted baby.

If you are scared about carrying an unwanted child because you aren’t ready to become a parent, you can always choose adoption.

The following steps can help a woman who is having an unwanted baby get the adoption process started:

  • Step 1: Determine you are going to deliver your baby
  • Step 2: Contact an adoption agency
  • Step 3: Pick an adoptive family
  • Step 4: Plan your post-placement life

If you’re ready to talk to an adoption specialist about placing your baby for adoption now, you can reach out to us today. But, if you want to find out more about choosing adoption for your unplanned pregnancy, continue reading.

The Steps to Choosing Adoption if You’re Having an Unwanted Baby

Step 1: Determine You are Going to Deliver Your Baby

If you have decided that you’re going to have to finish your unplanned pregnancy, you may have come to this conclusion for a few reasons:

  • You do not want to have an abortion.
  • Your religion or personal belief system forbids abortion.
  • You can’t access abortion in your state because of restrictions. Some states have age restrictions, waiting periods, and counseling that many women find cumbersome.
  • You can’t access abortion because you are too far along in your pregnancy. (For example, you’re in the third trimester with an unwanted baby.)

Once you’ve considered all the options for unwanted babies and have decided that you must deliver your baby, you may worry, “do I have to keep my unwanted baby after I give birth?”


You never have to become a parent if you do not want to because you can always choose adoption.

Step 2: Contact an Adoption Agency

If you’ve decided that adoption is best for you and your baby, the next step is to contact an adoption agency.

All adoption agencies are experienced in working with women experiencing an unwanted pregnancy. So, don’t feel embarrassed to express that you’re carrying an unwanted child to the adoption specialist handling your case.

Your adoption specialist understands that you didn’t plan to get pregnant and only want what’s best for your baby. Your specialist will know how to help you handle your situation and provide you with resources to make the experience more accessible.

Your adoption professional can help you get the following assistance during and directly after your pregnancy:

Adoption Plan Assistance

Your adoption specialist will help you create an adoption plan. Your adoption plan will include all the details you want in your adoption.

Most adoption plans include the following information:

Financial Assistance

Although you can’t get paid to place your baby for adoption, you can get substantial financial assistance when you choose adoption.

When you choose adoption, you never have to pay for:

  • The actual adoption: Adoption is always 100% free for the prospective birth mother.
  • Medical expenses: All your medical costs are covered when you choose adoption. This includes prenatal care, your baby’s delivery, and any post-pregnancy medical care.
  • Legal expenses: You never have to pay for the legal help and fees related to your adoption. When you work with an adoption agency, the agency will provide a lawyer who can help you finish your paperwork and ensure your rights are upheld and that your parental rights are correctly terminated.
  • Adoption counseling: You also don’t have to pay for adoption counseling when you choose adoption. Some larger, national adoption agencies provide 24/7 support to prospective birth moms.

In addition to not having to pay for the above resources, prospective birth moms also frequently don’t have to pay for:

  • Rent or mortgage (if you need to relocate, you often don’t have to pay for this service, either)
  • Utilities
  • Maternity clothing
  • Food
  • Transportation
  • Cell phone bills
  • And more

Step 4: Pick a Hopeful Adoptive Family

You can always choose your baby’s adoptive family no matter your circumstances.

To help you choose, your adoption specialist will send you adoption profiles. These adoption profiles will reflect the adoption preferences outlined in your adoption profile.

Although every adoption agency will allow you to pick your baby’s hopeful adoptive family, national adoption agencies tend to work with more adoptive families that live throughout the United States, giving you more choices.

Step 5: Plan Your Post-Placement Life

Although you may not have given birth yet, when you choose adoption, you can rest assured knowing that having an unwanted baby won’t cause you to change your life’s plans. 

When you choose adoption, everyone involved with the process benefits in the following ways:

  • You benefit from not financially being impacted by carrying or delivering a child. You also don’t have to change your life’s plans to parent a child you did not intend on having.
  • The adoptive family benefits because they now have the opportunity to become parents.
  • Your baby benefits because you gave them the opportunity to grow up in a loving family.

Next Steps

If you’re ready to talk to an adoption specialist about how you’re carrying an unwanted child, you can reach out to us today. Our specialists can help you choose and start the adoption process no matter how far along you are in your pregnancy or if you’ve already given birth to your child. Because you are always in charge of your adoption, no matter your circumstances.

About the Author

Lindsay Arielle has been a proud birth mother since placing her son for adoption in 2011. Her post-placement agreement has always been an open adoption. She loves the time she gets to spend with her son and his parents during visits. Lindsay truly believes that for herself and her family, adoption has been a blessing, and she enjoys writing about spiritual healing for birth mothers.

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