How to Have an “Unwanted Child” Adoption

No Adopted Child is Ever Unwanted – Millions of Kind People Want to Adopt a Child to Grow Their Family

No adopted child is ever unwanted. Millions of kind people want to adopt a child to grow their family.

If you are experiencing an unplanned pregnancy and:

  • Know you aren’t ready to parent your child
  • Know you can’t or don’t want to have an abortion
  • Know you want to provide your child with more opportunities

It’s important to know that you can always choose adoption.

And although you may be worried people will view your baby as another “unwanted child” up for adoption, this could not be further than the truth.

When you choose adoption, you should feel confident knowing:

  • No adopted child is unwanted (there’s no such thing as an unwanted child adoption)
  • Many hopeful adoptive families want to adopt
  • It’s OK to choose adoption

If you’re ready to discuss your adoption options with an adoption specialist, you can reach out to us today for free. But, if you want to read more about unwanted pregnancy and child adoption, continue reading.

There’s No Such Thing as an Unwanted Child Adoption

When you’re in the middle of emotionally accepting that you are unexpectedly pregnant, it’s hard to see things clearly. That’s why it’s so easy for a prospective birth mom to worry that people may view her choice to place her baby for adoption as an “unwanted child” adoption.

The truth is that there is no such thing as an unwanted child adoption because no child placed for adoption is ever unwanted.

Women choose adoption for many reasons, including:

  • They are not ready to or don’t want to become a parent
  • They aren’t prepared to care for a child financially
  • They don’t want to raise a child alone if they are single or in an unstable relationship
  • They already have children and know they cannot care for another child

These reasons are valid and do not indicate that your child is unwanted. The families looking to adopt children to help grow their family know that these children are not unwanted.

When you choose adoption, you show that your child is very much wanted. You simply recognize you currently cannot care for your baby the way you want.

“Adoption has a stigma,” Casey, a birth mother, told American Adoptions. “You know, there’s that ignorance that you’re ‘giving up’ the children, when you do not ‘give up’ a human being. In reality, you’re choosing something for them… I know a lot of people try to hide it because they’re ashamed of it, and you shouldn’t be. You made a big and hard decision for what was best for your child, and you should be proud of that.”

Many Hopeful Adoptive Families Who Want to Adopt

If you’re wondering where to find adoptive parents for an “unwanted baby,” the answer is through an adoption agency.

All reputable adoption agencies screen hopeful adoptive families to ensure that your baby will grow up with a loving family who will care for them their entire life.

If you’re considering an “unwanted child” adoption, you can choose to work with a:

  • Local or regional adoption agency: An agency that works with prospective birth mothers and hopeful adoptive families in your state or region.
  • National adoption agency: An agency that works with prospective birth mothers and hopeful adoptive families throughout the United States

If you’re concerned that you won’t be able to have a lot of adoptive families to choose from, we want to assure you that there are many hopeful adoptive families.

According to American Adoptions, a national adoption agency, it’s estimated that around 2 million couples are waiting to adopt a child in the United States. This number helps show that no adopted child is unwanted.  

We recommend working with a national adoption agency if you want access to as many hopeful adoptive family profiles as possible. National adoption agencies typically work with more adoptive families because they serve the entire country.

It’s OK to Choose Adoption

Some prospective birth mothers worry that their adopted child may be viewed as an “unwanted child” because they don’t know much about adoption.

The following are a few questions nervous prospective birth mothers often consider.

What if my “Unwanted Child” is Not Adopted?

A hopeful family will adopt your child because you get to choose your baby’s hopeful adoptive family. You are always in control of your adoption and can choose the hopeful adoptive family no matter your circumstance.

Your adoption specialist will send you as many hopeful adoptive family profiles as you’d like to ensure you choose the hopeful adoptive family that you think is best for your child.

To help ensure that your child is placed with the right adoptive family, your adoption specialist will set up a conference call so you and the hopeful adoptive family can ask each other questions. You even can arrange in-person meetings to ensure that the fit is right.

You never have to worry about where to find adoptive parents for your “unwanted baby” because you can choose your child’s hopeful adoptive family.

Can Every “Unwanted Baby” be Adopted?

Yes. Every child placed for adoption is adopted because many hopeful adoptive families want to adopt.

As we mentioned before, almost 2 million couples in the U.S. are waiting to adopt. These people have been through screening and are cleared to adopt, so when a birth mother chooses adoption, she can immediately select the hopeful adoptive family right for her child.

A prospective birth mom can choose adoption before she’s given birth, while she’s at the hospital, or after she has returned home with her child.

It’s never too late to choose adoption. Because if you experience an unwanted pregnancy and choose child adoption, your baby will be placed with a loving, hopeful adoptive family.

Is it Hard to Place an “Unwanted Child” for Adoption?

No. If you choose to place your baby for adoption, your adoption agency will help you through the entire process. Because when you choose adoption, you never have to go through the process alone.

You can expect to go through the following steps when you choose adoption:

  • Choose an adoption agency: Select a local, regional, or national adoption agency to work with.
  • Work with an adoption specialist: Your specialist will ensure you get everything you need during the adoption process.
  • Choose a hopeful adoptive family: Look through hopeful adoptive family profiles to find the right fit.
  • Give birth: Choose the hospital where you give birth and who will be present at the child’s birth.
  • Enjoy life post-placement: Depending on the type of adoption (open, semi-open, or closed) you choose, you can stay in contact with the adoptive family and your child.

Final Thoughts

You never have to worry that your child will be seen as an unwanted baby and won’t be adopted if you place them for adoption. Because no child is ever unwanted, and there is always plenty of loving, hopeful adoptive families who want to adopt. 

You can contact us today through our online form if you’re ready to adopt.

About the Author

Lindsay Arielle has been a proud birth mother since placing her son for adoption in 2011. Her post-placement agreement has always been an open adoption. She loves the time she gets to spend with her son and his parents during visits. Lindsay truly believes that for herself and her family, adoption has been a blessing, and she enjoys writing about spiritual healing for birth mothers.

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