An unplanned pregnancy is a complicated matter, and it can be made even more confusing if you are under eighteen or still dependent on your parents. You may want to pursue an adoption plan that they do not agree with.
What you do after an unplanned pregnancy is a decision that only you can make. At the same time, navigating this situation with your parents can be tricky. Here’s what you need to know about the role your parents play in the adoption process, along with some tips to help you through this time.
Who Must Consent to the Adoption
If you are pursuing an adoption plan for your child, you will be asked to terminate your parental rights after giving birth. As the child’s mother, you have custody of your child until you sign the relinquishment papers – even if you are underage.
In most states, the only people who must consent to an adoption are the birth parents. This means that from a legal standpoint, you do not need to gain your parents’ consent in order for your child’s adoption to be legally valid. Every state has slightly different legal processes, so make sure you understand the adoption laws in your state and know your parental rights.
Regardless of the law, your decision may cause friction with your loved ones. If you can, you should try to help your parents understand why you are choosing adoption, but this is not always possible. Fortunately, there are still ways for you to move forward with adoption if you feel it is truly best for you and your baby.
Choosing Adoption with Unsupportive Parents
If your parents are unsupportive of your decision, they may try to prevent you from pursuing your adoption plan.
If this describes your situation, you are not alone – and you have options. You should always have the right to choose what is best for your child, and an adoption specialist can help you seek emotional and financial support through your pregnancy. You may also want to try talking to your parents with the help of your specialist, who can mediate the interaction and help you come to an understanding with your family.
Ultimately, adoption is your choice and yours alone. Making a decision against your parents’ wishes, however, can be painful and difficult, especially if you are underage or dependent on them. If at all possible, it is best to communicate with your parents and help them to understand that your reasons for choosing adoption are thought-out, responsible, and – above all – selfless.